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Rant How do internet friendships work?

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SmallAnus said:
>How do internet friendships work?
They don't
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They do work, just not here.
Sometimes I feel like I would be better off going back to Discord but to be honest the friend making days are probably over for me, the one friend I had for 8 years was probably my only true best friend, we experienced so much together and we were quite similar in a few ways, for some reason he just accepted me, whenever I think of the good times we had, I feel sad because of how great he was and how much he put up with me, but he was so inconsiderate at times, we got into arguments frequently and when women got into the mix, things got messy.

The one thing I left out about my friendship with my best friend is that our friend group was not 2, it expanded to 3 multiple times, and everytime it did, it was a woman who was involved and it created this paradigm of ganging up on eachother and singling eachother out. We caused so much pain towards eachother, but I managed to make up to the external parties, just not to him. If I had the chance, I probably would have apologized, but in the end, I felt manipulated and abused, I felt like he took advantage of my autism at times to get a rise out of me, at one point he was legitimately just bullying me for being autistic, which was not like him, but he did it because a third person was involved, unfortunately there was a lot more to that than we had hoped. Our group was really like an autism magnet, and he was kind of autistic too, he didn't want to admit it but he was and every third wheeler we met was also autistic.

I can't help but feel like I caused a little bit of pain and trouble, but he also did some damage aswell, if we had just grown up and been adults about the whole thing, things might have smoothened out or something like that, but that's not really an option anymore. I don't think I'll ever have a friendship like that ever again, we provided so much for eachother, someone to talk to, someone to play games with, someone to confide in and tell eachother about our problems, we were homies. When shit was good, it was good, until we got into massive arguments and shit was bad, real bad. Such a great 8 year long friendship started from a Minecraft Server that I have archived to this day and ended due to one last petty argument. I went on a long rampage about how I was going to leave for good, and he just watched. He watched me explode, he didn't say a single word, I left that message and left him. I tried to contact him a month later to no response, then, the days just passed and passed, it's been years now. I haven't seen him since 2022, I think. Sometimes I hover over his steam name in anger, sadness, contempt, but that's all over now. I don't think about him that much and quite frankly, I don't wanna tread on graves or upset people who I've made amends with along the way.

Online friendships can happen, but I don't think they'll ever happen again, something so impactful like that just can't really occur, it was really just a one in a lifetime thing that happened by luck and I took that for granted and I never learned to be mature or considerate, it lasted for 8 years and I was always so used to it and unable to adapt without it, and now, I'm just kind of lost still. I'd hope that I'd find new friends, but I just haven't really. Of course I have my people from /anthro/ maybe that's a possibility, but, I feel like if I start to notice the patterns a lot more, it's probably more likely that I just got lucky and it'll never happen again, I'm not really the friend making type. I guess I'll smile that it happened and not cry because it's over.
 
friendship is a relationship of mutual benefit. If that relationship does not exist then it is not friendship IMO
People here think all online friendship is shallow as if meeting people who only care about you at a surface level wasn't also a thing IRL
i think it's just due to the fact that it is way easier meeting people online than it is to meet them in real life
 
ISTANBUL said:
friendship is a relationship of mutual benefit. If that relationship does not exist then it is not friendship IMO
People here think all online friendship is shallow as if meeting people who only care about you at a surface level wasn't also a thing IRL
i think it's just due to the fact that it is way easier meeting people online than it is to meet them in real life
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You are wrong. I have nothing to offer my friends yet they are mine.
 
The Ruler of Everything said:
They do work, just not here.
Sometimes I feel like I would be better off going back to Discord but to be honest the friend making days are probably over for me, the one friend I had for 8 years was probably my only true best friend, we experienced so much together and we were quite similar in a few ways, for some reason he just accepted me, whenever I think of the good times we had, I feel sad because of how great he was and how much he put up with me, but he was so inconsiderate at times, we got into arguments frequently and when women got into the mix, things got messy.

The one thing I left out about my friendship with my best friend is that our friend group was not 2, it expanded to 3 multiple times, and everytime it did, it was a woman who was involved and it created this paradigm of ganging up on eachother and singling eachother out. We caused so much pain towards eachother, but I managed to make up to the external parties, just not to him. If I had the chance, I probably would have apologized, but in the end, I felt manipulated and abused, I felt like he took advantage of my autism at times to get a rise out of me, at one point he was legitimately just bullying me for being autistic, which was not like him, but he did it because a third person was involved, unfortunately there was a lot more to that than we had hoped. Our group was really like an autism magnet, and he was kind of autistic too, he didn't want to admit it but he was and every third wheeler we met was also autistic.

I can't help but feel like I caused a little bit of pain and trouble, but he also did some damage aswell, if we had just grown up and been adults about the whole thing, things might have smoothened out or something like that, but that's not really an option anymore. I don't think I'll ever have a friendship like that ever again, we provided so much for eachother, someone to talk to, someone to play games with, someone to confide in and tell eachother about our problems, we were homies. When shit was good, it was good, until we got into massive arguments and shit was bad, real bad. Such a great 8 year long friendship started from a Minecraft Server that I have archived to this day and ended due to one last petty argument. I went on a long rampage about how I was going to leave for good, and he just watched. He watched me explode, he didn't say a single word, I left that message and left him. I tried to contact him a month later to no response, then, the days just passed and passed, it's been years now. I haven't seen him since 2022, I think. Sometimes I hover over his steam name in anger, sadness, contempt, but that's all over now. I don't think about him that much and quite frankly, I don't wanna tread on graves or upset people who I've made amends with along the way.

Online friendships can happen, but I don't think they'll ever happen again, something so impactful like that just can't really occur, it was really just a one in a lifetime thing that happened by luck and I took that for granted and I never learned to be mature or considerate, it lasted for 8 years and I was always so used to it and unable to adapt without it, and now, I'm just kind of lost still. I'd hope that I'd find new friends, but I just haven't really. Of course I have my people from /anthro/ maybe that's a possibility, but, I feel like if I start to notice the patterns a lot more, it's probably more likely that I just got lucky and it'll never happen again, I'm not really the friend making type. I guess I'll smile that it happened and not cry because it's over.
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Me and my best friend always had a secret power, of sorts, it was strange. We called it "the same wavelength" and I feel like even today, we really were on the same wavelength. Prophetic things would always happen and we even finished each other's sentences or said the same thing at the same time, corny as shit I know, but when it happened, we just felt like we were meant to be best friends with each other, but like a tale as old as time, friends tend to grow apart.
 
Sneedman said:
Like, bluds will way they made big friends online, people they constantly talk to and met irl. How the fuck does this work? If you go on cord you get groomed and how do you become friends over the screen if you don't even know how the person is
coaljak
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the ability for human's to get attached to shit is extrememly understated, most online friendship's work through a percived perception of a individual(i'e me thinking muh online fren is bbc chad when irl he is a wimpy whyte boy). TLDR only mentally ill weirdo's have online friendship's for the most part.
 
ye_old_fred said:
the ability for human's to get attached to shit is extrememly understated, most online friendship's work through a percived perception of a individual(i'e me thinking muh online fren is bbc chad when irl he is a wimpy whyte boy). TLDR only mentally ill weirdo's have online friendship's for the most part.
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I am upfront with my friends about being a fucking loser albeit.
 
ye_old_fred said:
the ability for human's to get attached to shit is extrememly understated, most online friendship's work through a percived perception of a individual(i'e me thinking muh online fren is bbc chad when irl he is a wimpy whyte boy). TLDR only mentally ill weirdo's have online friendship's for the most part.
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Me and my online friend shared everything with eachother though, we had our voices and our faces, we even know exactly where eachother lives etc, so it's not as if I'm talking to like a profile picture, I knew exactly what he looked like.
 
Fortuna said:
I am upfront with my friends about being a fucking loser albeit.
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