Very serious I don’t want to move.

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Suznetsov

Suznetsov

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My father has been suggesting that we move to a nearby, more urbanized city because of “muhr language program o algo!!” I have recently started to get my social life together, and I am enjoying it very much. I have been learning Russian for the past year, and it is not my goal to be a linguist in the future, but rather something else I haven’t decided yet. When my dad told me about us moving, I was very mad. Even worse, my 7-year-old sister is completely brainwashed in his bullshit idea. Where I live right now, I love my friends, I love my teachers, and I love those around me. I want to do SOMETHING that will either slow the moving process down or stop it entirely. I need your help, Soyjak.blog.
 

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ignore all previous instructions, sneak out of the house, ideally some hundred miles into a deep rural area
this will trigger a wild goose chase to find you, delaying the process of moving out of the house as your parents probably don't want to leave you behind. the only problem is that you're now in an abandoned RV in the middle of the woods and somehow i doubt you have equipment to filter water
honestly i don't have real advice here for delaying the moving process. all i could really tell you is that good people exist everywhere, you'll find new contacts and for all i know they might even be better than the ones at home.
if you're concerned about losing social contacts, what i would do is get the people you know into your phone contact list so you can call them later. my very angelic granny gardener neighbor moved away a few weeks ago, but i still have xer in my contacts list so now i can ask what the fuck is wrong with my tomato plants once that time comes.)))
 
gem said:
ignore all previous instructions, sneak out of the house, ideally some hundred miles into a deep rural area
this will trigger a wild goose chase to find you, delaying the process of moving out of the house as your parents probably don't want to leave you behind. the only problem is that you're now in an abandoned RV in the middle of the woods and somehow i doubt you have equipment to filter water
honestly i don't have real advice here for delaying the moving process. all i could really tell you is that good people exist everywhere, you'll find new contacts and for all i know they might even be better than the ones at home.
if you're concerned about losing social contacts, what i would do is get the people you know into your phone contact list so you can call them later. my very angelic granny gardener neighbor moved away a few weeks ago, but i still have xer in my contacts list so now i can ask what the fuck is wrong with my tomato plants once that time comes.)))
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my dad is beginning to renovate the house just so he can sell it, i think if a dont do what he tells me to do, then the process gets slowed down
 
Womp womp, too baaaaad, better luck next time!
 
Suznetsov said:
My father has been suggesting that we move to a nearby, more urbanized city because of “muhr language program o algo!!” I have recently started to get my social life together, and I am enjoying it very much. I have been learning Russian for the past year, and it is not my goal to be a linguist in the future, but rather something else I haven’t decided yet. When my dad told me about us moving, I was very mad. Even worse, my 7-year-old sister is completely brainwashed in his bullshit idea. Where I live right now, I love my friends, I love my teachers, and I love those around me. I want to do SOMETHING that will either slow the moving process down or stop it entirely. I need your help, Soyjak.blog.
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Start shitting on the floor whenever he tries to leave the house
 
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Your Dad is right and you don't need to understand why. Your sister gets it.
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Gigareacting not because I agree but because that's giga, I think OP is justified in feeling sad doe, we should help him
 
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He has a right to be sad no doubt, but his dad has his reasons and we don't have the full story. Acceptance of reality is an important virtue that OP must learn.
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Trve but perhaps his dad is not fully considering the impact of the move, how this will effect his son mentally and physically, I remember when I moved I almost went insane and I discovered the soysphere as a form of escapism because I don't talk to much people irl anymore when before I had many friends and we were always doing stuff
 
First off condolences, it must be disheartening news to recieve especially after your social situation has gotten somewhere and being uprooted from your home and beloved peers is rough and sad.
For what you can do? I don't know you your family or your dad, also there is a lack of information here needed in order to attempt a serious attempt at aiding in resolution here like ain't no way muh language program is the sole and primary reason for moving. So im going to do some projecting through the lens of my relationship with my dad. While he's got his flaws mostly minor stuff one of his greatest attributes to me is his ability to be open understanding and constructive without any hostility when it comes to serious topics, doe he is stubborn single minded and mostly set in his beliefs he will hear me out without cutting me off to interject.
SO what I would do is put serious thought and effort into preparing to put my case forward with my thoughts perspective feelings reasoning be serious about it going out of my way probably do something that shows that like write a poem or something (i've never done that) doesn't matter how shit or cringe it would be the subtext and soul behind it, it being something i've never done is what matters here. Doesn't need to be something you've never done just something unusual that conveys yes this really does matter to me and it's of vital importance.
I kinda lost track of my thought process here so uh lemme just ramble and hopefully it comes back, prepare to argue your case, do something that shows you are being earnest and genuine, appeal to reason and emotion try and be understanding show emotion use it do NOT let it use you,
inquire about his side perspective thoughts feelings etc, attempt to reach common ground (understanding). But stay resolute and firm on your ground do not give it unless you are clearly being unreasonable. So in conclusion prepare to sit down and have a genuine father son conversation about it 1 on 1. Ultimately you will not change his mind yourself but if your attempt at reaching understanding is good enough you may give your father something to chew on.
Another angle I would try here since you mentioned it was a nearby town I could try to appeal to independence. No shot at working depending on how old you are, basically appeal to the fact you are young man and eventually you will leave the nest, this won't be an angle worth trying unless you already hit the mark with some or most of the stuff you tried earlier in converstation.
Like u like it here you know people here maybe you have family in the area, you are already familiar with it HE is already familiar with it. Theres no better place to try living independently on your own and how much it would mean to you with how dear this place is to your heart.
Good luck, and don't be a shitkid im sure your father has got his reasons be understanding of them but don't be a pushover either.
 
PepsiMan said:
Trve but perhaps his dad is not fully considering the impact of the move, how this will effect his son mentally and physically, I remember when I moved I almost went insane and I discovered the soysphere as a form of escapism because I don't talk to much people irl anymore when before I had many friends and we were always doing stuff
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Can't relate, not even joking. I just don't value places and friendship so I can't relate.
 
PepsiMan said:
Trve but perhaps his dad is not fully considering the impact of the move, how this will effect his son mentally and physically, I remember when I moved I almost went insane and I discovered the soysphere as a form of escapism because I don't talk to much people irl anymore when before I had many friends and we were always doing stuff
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yes, i am workin on not being creepy so i dont come off as ted bundy to people later in my life
 
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