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I've noticed that recently when I get mad, the unpleasant feeling lingers for an hour or two after I've either resolved the problem or stopped messing with it. It makes it hard for me to enjoy most things like playing games/taking walks/watching TV. Pretty sure it affects my heart rate too
Just wondering, if i don't get any replies that's okay but i would appreciate advice
 
Well, of course the correct solution is to add another pill to your medication schedule. Nah, just joking. Still, may I ask what causes this anger in the first place? What could be making it so intense that the feeling lasts for over an hour?
 
Well, of course the correct solution is to add another pill to your medication schedule. Nah, just joking. Still, may I ask what causes this anger in the first place? What could be making it so intense that the feeling lasts for over an hour?
It's not necessarily the anger itself that lasts an hour; that part is usually brief (but intense). After the anger wears off a general feeling of unpleasantness sets in (I would best describe it as a mix of restlessness, a feeling of impending doom, guilt, some other stuff I don't know how to describe)

As for what actually causes it, it's usually simple stuff. One time I forgot to take the trash out and I felt pissed off for like two hours after doing it. To be clear, nobody told me to do it. I just remembered to do it at the wrong time. I rarely have outbursts around my family anymore too, most of the time I go upstairs and start yelling for a bit. I don't break stuff either.

They had actually put me on antipsychotics to control my irritability and anger problems, though it didn't really work. Now that I'm off of them I feel like I have more control over my actions, except now my emotions are more intense.
 
It's not necessarily the anger itself that lasts an hour; that part is usually brief (but intense). After the anger wears off a general feeling of unpleasantness sets in (I would best describe it as a mix of restlessness, a feeling of impending doom, guilt, some other stuff I don't know how to describe)

As for what actually causes it, it's usually simple stuff. One time I forgot to take the trash out and I felt pissed off for like two hours after doing it. To be clear, nobody told me to do it. I just remembered to do it at the wrong time. I rarely have outbursts around my family anymore too, most of the time I go upstairs and start yelling for a bit. I don't break stuff either.

They had actually put me on antipsychotics to control my irritability and anger problems, though it didn't really work. Now that I'm off of them I feel like I have more control over my actions, except now my emotions are more intense.
I see. Have you ever before tried meditation? I do not mean that in the faggotous hippie context of Eastern mysticism, but rather, I mean spiritual pondering in the context of God's words, commandments, and teachings. All that you must do is acquaint yourself somewhere quiet and comfortable (not to the point of collapsing in bed and falling into a slumber, but rather finding a proper place of sitting, like on a bed or in a chair, for example), read verses of scripture pertaining to the commandments of The Lord as you sit there (the Psalms and the Proverbs are good for this), and then think deeply on them with your senses closed to your surroundings as these teachings bounce and float in your memory, until you've truly deciphered all that you're able to pick apart from the holy words. You can then spend this quiet time in prayer and conversation with God, after you've pondered, for further comfort of the soul. All of this will allow you to eliminate the feeling of unease you have after this initial anger subsides while making the time of its subsidence spiritually beneficial. As Saint Paul writes in Philippians:
>The Lord is at hand; do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. - Epistle to the Philippians, Chapter 4, Verses 6-7
And then, just after that:
>Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. - Epistle to the Philippians, Chapter 4, Verse 8
So, put briefly, I believe that a way to quiet these unpleasant feelings you have down to a level of enduring, inner peace is to absorb the word of God through the action of meditation, or deep, sense-closed pondering, the eyes closed to vision, the ears exposed only to quiet, the nose to nothing fragrant, the tongue to no food (of course), and the feeling of touch comforted to a point of no intrusion on your thoughts through a comforting position of rest, then following this process of pondering with a response to Him in the form of prayer, of conversation and praise to His almighty nature as the Godhead. To clear the mind with meditation is one thing, which is how the Eastern peoples, like the Buddhists or the Hindus, think of it, but to then utilize that space with holiness is the way to find actual peace from the process. So, that may help you.
 
I see. Have you ever before tried meditation? I do not mean that in the faggotous hippie context of Eastern mysticism, but rather, I mean spiritual pondering in the context of God's words, commandments, and teachings. All that you must do is acquaint yourself somewhere quiet and comfortable (not to the point of collapsing in bed and falling into a slumber, but rather finding a proper place of sitting, like on a bed or in a chair, for example), read verses of scripture pertaining to the commandments of The Lord as you sit there (the Psalms and the Proverbs are good for this), and then think deeply on them with your senses closed to your surroundings as these teachings bounce and float in your memory, until you've truly deciphered all that you're able to pick apart from the holy words. You can then spend this quiet time in prayer and conversation with God, after you've pondered, for further comfort of the soul. All of this will allow you to eliminate the feeling of unease you have after this initial anger subsides while making the time of its subsidence spiritually beneficial. As Saint Paul writes in Philippians:
>The Lord is at hand; do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Epistle to the Philippians, Chapter 4, Verses 6-7
And then, just after that:
>Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. - Epistle tot he Philippians, Chapter 4, Verse 8
So, put briefly, I believe that a way to quiet these unpleasant feelings you have down to a level of enduring, inner peace is to absorb the word of God through the action of meditation, or deep, sense-closed pondering, the eyes closed to vision, the ears exposed only to quiet, the nose to nothing fragrant, the tongue to no food (of course), and the feeling of touch comforted to a point of no intrusion on your thoughts through a comforting position of rest, then following this process of pondering with a response to Him in the form of prayer, of conversation and praise to His almighty nature as the Godhead. To clear the mind with meditation is one thing, which is how the Eastern peoples, like the Buddhists or the Hindus, think of it, but to then utilize that space with holiness is the way to find actual peace from the process. So, that may help you.
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I see. Have you ever before tried meditation? I do not mean that in the faggotous hippie context of Eastern mysticism, but rather, I mean spiritual pondering in the context of God's words, commandments, and teachings. All that you must do is acquaint yourself somewhere quiet and comfortable (not to the point of collapsing in bed and falling into a slumber, but rather finding a proper place of sitting, like on a bed or in a chair, for example), read verses of scripture pertaining to the commandments of The Lord as you sit there (the Psalms and the Proverbs are good for this), and then think deeply on them with your senses closed to your surroundings as these teachings bounce and float in your memory, until you've truly deciphered all that you're able to pick apart from the holy words. You can then spend this quiet time in prayer and conversation with God, after you've pondered, for further comfort of the soul. All of this will allow you to eliminate the feeling of unease you have after this initial anger subsides while making the time of its subsidence spiritually beneficial. As Saint Paul writes in Philippians:
>The Lord is at hand; do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. - Epistle to the Philippians, Chapter 4, Verses 6-7
And then, just after that:
>Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. - Epistle to the Philippians, Chapter 4, Verse 8
So, put briefly, I believe that a way to quiet these unpleasant feelings you have down to a level of enduring, inner peace is to absorb the word of God through the action of meditation, or deep, sense-closed pondering, the eyes closed to vision, the ears exposed only to quiet, the nose to nothing fragrant, the tongue to no food (of course), and the feeling of touch comforted to a point of no intrusion on your thoughts through a comforting position of rest, then following this process of pondering with a response to Him in the form of prayer, of conversation and praise to His almighty nature as the Godhead. To clear the mind with meditation is one thing, which is how the Eastern peoples, like the Buddhists or the Hindus, think of it, but to then utilize that space with holiness is the way to find actual peace from the process. So, that may help you.
You're right in that my initial thoughts when seeing the word "meditation" were about the weird hippie stuff. But I think this could work really well for me specifically, as I'm always having trouble with rushing thoughts in my mind, which can amplify those feelings I mentioned.
A lot of the time I'm often afraid to speak to the Lord; I feel as if my problems are trivial, and that I'm weak for requesting even the most basic form of guidance. I also feel like sometimes I'm not mentally fit enough (in this case the "level-headed" sense) to be even considering anything related to what you've said. Sometimes everything that pops up in my thoughts feels corrupt even if it isn't explicitly so. Again, something that's really hard for me to describe.
I'll start looking at stuff online to see what I can do, maybe I can pray with my mother later too since she likes doing that.
I kinda derailed my own reply but what I'm trying to say is that your advice actually applies to me really well and I'm glad you brought it up, but at the same time it involves overcoming one of the biggest obstacles in my mind. Thanks again
 
A lot of the time I'm often afraid to speak to the Lord; I feel as if my problems are trivial, and that I'm weak for requesting even the most basic form of guidance.
Well, Christ perished for all of us, did He not? It would only make sense, then, that He would also want to care for all of our needs, no matter the scale at which we perceive them in significance. When Moses was speaking to God on Mount Horeb, one of the first concerns he gave to The Lord was a reference to his slow speech and tongue (i.e his inability to proficiently speak). This man had just had the Almighty appear to him from a bush that scorched in flames yet was never devoured by them, a sight of utter, divine unworldliness, and one of his first queries to ask All-Powerful God was of his speech impediment, for he knew that God would understand all of his plights. So too does The Lord see us all in the same manner. We are weak, you are right on that, but we are only weak without The Lord. We are gravely sick, and He is our cure. Must we truly consider slapping an antidote away to be strength, or can we see it for what it is, as foolishness? He is our guidance, and He loves us, so to turn away from Him out of our own pride in appearing strong is perhaps one of the most terrible things we could do to Him, to abandon Him so that we can fight everything off ourselves. That would be the wrong way to go.
I also feel like sometimes I'm not mentally fit enough (in this case the "level-headed" sense) to be even considering anything related to what you've said. Sometimes everything that pops up in my thoughts feels corrupt even if it isn't explicitly so. Again, something that's really hard for me to describe.
The only way to become "fit" is to exercise, yes? This pondering will certainly be able to help you there, then, in improving that mental fitness. I wouldn't rather you keep toiling in those rotten feelings that continue to come back to you after every burst of anger in your heart rips loose the seam of tranquility in your mind. So, the clearest solution is to sew that seam up tight with the needle of God's peaceful, stable energy so that it doesn't burst anymore.
 
Well, Christ perished for all of us, did He not? It would only make sense, then, that He would also want to care for all of our needs, no matter the scale at which we perceive them in significance. When Moses was speaking to God on Mount Horeb, one of the first concerns he gave to The Lord was a reference to his slow speech and tongue (i.e his inability to proficiently speak). This man had just had the Almighty appear to him from a bush that scorched in flames yet was never devoured by them, a sight of utter, divine unworldliness, and one of his first queries to ask All-Powerful God was of his speech impediment, for he knew that God would understand all of his plights. So too does The Lord see us all in the same manner. We are weak, you are right on that, but we are only weak without The Lord. We are gravely sick, and He is our cure. Must we truly consider slapping an antidote away to be strength, or can we see it for what it is, as foolishness? He is our guidance, and He loves us, so to turn away from Him out of our own pride in appearing strong is perhaps one of the most terrible things we could do to Him, to abandon Him so that we can fight everything off ourselves. That would be the wrong way to go.
Very well said. Honestly I have a lots of problems, but I need to get it through my head that I can't just let myself wallow in them forever without actually taking action. A solid connection to Christ, a "lifeline" if you will, is something I lack at the moment and that's especially bad because His guidance is exactly what I need. I have spent many nights with my eyes closed in bed pondering what it would take for me to get motivated and turn things around; whether it's a person, or a thing, or a mindset, or some epiphanizing idea. It's honestly quite shameful that I kept (and still keep) trying to avoid the elephant in the room, which is devoting myself to the Lord and everything that comes with that.

I think it's especially interesting because to put it simply I do not have the personality of someone who can simply brute force their way through life without any meaning or thinking. Those people also have lots of problems which I'm sure you know. Everything I've ranted/complained about on this site across all three of my accounts can really just be summed up with this: I am someone who deeply needs spiritual guidance, very much so because I am vulnerable and incomplete without it (not trying to victimize myself here, it's genuinely what I think).
You've probably seen me talk about myself as a "one-man army" or something similar before, and I do that because I (wrongly) feel like I'm somehow at war with everyone else, and it also falsely implies I'm capable of facing everything by myself. That's not the case obviously.

The only way to become "fit" is to exercise, yes? This pondering will certainly be able to help you there, then, in improving that mental fitness. I wouldn't rather you keep toiling in those rotten feelings that continue to come back to you after every burst of anger in your heart rips loose the seam of tranquility in your mind. So, the clearest solution is to sew that seam up tight with the needle of God's peaceful, stable energy so that it doesn't burst anymore.
That's another thing I have a hard time accepting. I have let my mind and even my physical body deteriorate by being a sloth, both in a literal and figurative sense. It's ridiculous when I look at it, today I didn't even want to take a walk because it was sunny. I believe my father still has an old bicycle in the garage, perhaps I could try to learn how to ride it and have fun while doing so. Even just the walks help a lot too.
 
Get a lobotomy for the part of your brain causing this.
 
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