Speaking seriously, sexually deviant thoughts and desires do not define who or what you are.
They are just that, deviations. As long as you do not engage with them or humor them they have no bearing on your self.
A great tragedy of modern times is the belief that any errant, deviant thought you may have is truly part of you, truly defines who and what you are, when that is quite simply not the case.
I pity those who have been convinced that base desires define oneself, and have ruined themselves in trying to bring that "true self" into reality.